Conversation

So you see a woman you like. She’s pretty, seems nice. Many a young fellow (or old for that matter) have fallen (hard) for a face and body, only to find out later that the person behind the figure was not for him. (The same probably applies to women who may fall head over heels for a good looking guy. I guess there’s no danger of this happening in my case. The only reason a woman would fall head over heels because of me would be because she was trying to get away from me and tripped). The adage of getting to know the person and not just the body is a good one, I think.
Conversations over a period of days and weeks (months even) could help solve a lot of future relationship problems. If no relationship develops, these conversations would result in no relationship problems at all since there would be no relationship to which problems could adhere. If the relationship goes forward, you can get a feel for what kind of person she is and act/speak/emote appropriately. How often has a guy assumed something about a woman that could have been made clear by a good conversation, only to have it surprise him later (and often in a negative way)?
People always try to put their best face/foot forward. Foolish is the lad who falls for the façade rather than the foundation. What is the best foundation? A kind heart. An intelligent mind. Good character. From these qualities spring the words that you want to listen to, the thoughts you want to interact with. From these come the continuing desire to encourage the relationship. You just have to be able to tell her your thoughts, to have her agree, disagree, correct, encourage. The beauty of her words will reflect the beauty of her soul. The beautiful soul is the foundation of the house of relationship that you want to build. What will the future hold? Perhaps she will become one of your closest friends and confidants. Perhaps she will even become your wife. Perhaps she may move away to a distant city and leave you lonely and disappointed. But when the loneliness comes, the words will be there for you to remember, and you’ll feel well again. Even then the bonds of communication are not severed. Letters, e-mails, even phone calls can rekindle that flame of desire, not for the body but for the mind; not for the flesh but the spirit. One day the two may become one flesh, but until then, the two minds can become one. This is reward enough.